TWENTY-AUGHT-SIX
Zidane menaces the cast of "highschool musical"
As Kellen thinks he's hilarious for saying "you can't spell Cameron without emo" and as thats the way it is I felt like I ought to give a send off to my general personal feel of 2006.
2006 was the year that friendships got very complex.
Now from the outside this would seem inevitable due to marriages, a few babies and a general increased divide in the couples vs. singles battle but in spite of all of that some new crazy shit has cropped up in the friendship division. Maybe it's due to hitting my fouth year in vancouver or maybe it's my more frequent back and forth travels to Edmonton but friends , and how I have to relate to them have changed.
You see I have two types of friends: The Arcane Knights of Friendship and The Millionaire Playboys of Friendship.
The first group sees friendship as a sacred holy bond constantly teetering on the edge of desturction if one doesnt follow the strict codes and practices of friendship (all of which of course are never disclosed). With them friendship is very much an exchange of friendship as a service or sometimes I suppose as a ... goods. If you've done something good for your friend they can always be counted on to do something good for you , no matter how big or small or annoying or stupid. They do it because you are FRIENDS DAMMIT! In theory these people will take a bullet for you as long as they are assured you will take one for them.
Interestingly though considering it operates on an "I owed you now you owe me" basis the BEST kind of friendship that can be exhibited is taking one for the team. A "you don't owe me" if you will. Thats great and fine and I totally agree that altruism is a fantastic basis for friendship. But there's always a douchebag who's team you realize you've been taking one for for about three months with no love in return. And god help you if you stop being a bad friend. Friendship IS A BOND MAN...A BOND.
Then there's the other group. These people aren't about an exchange of anything. These people are about being awesome. Specifically you and them being awesome and you somehow adding a level of awesomeness to their pre-existing awesome never previously reachable sans you. So long as you both are vibrating and maximum awesome your awe can spin around and rub off on eachother and make both of your lives radical. What, you thought i'd say awesome?
Of course these friends require you be wicked and cool and original 24/7 though which is, of course, quite impossible and doubly so if you are an awkward fellow taken to 4 nights in a week such as myself. While you are awesome these people have your back and will be there for you and defend you arguably better than the previous group especially if it's for no reason at all but man...if you are not awesome for a second expect to need to produce some serious evidence of regained awesomeness to get back on their friendship radar at all.
But the problem isn't these two groups. The problem is how quick people switch from one to the other or have a little bit of each or schizophrenically change their mind as to how they feel on the matter. One day you have to be awesome and then next day you are in shit because you were being awesome and not committing the holy act of altruistic friendship.
I read somewhere stupid recently written by an older person (so they know life...like everyone's life) that living in your twenties was like constantly wrestling a squid. I don't think you actually can wrestle a squid but I will say that friendship complexity, while amusing, is more of a hands on pain in the ass than it used to be.
Though wrestling a squid could get you lots of awesome points.
Cam
Zidane menaces the cast of "highschool musical"As Kellen thinks he's hilarious for saying "you can't spell Cameron without emo" and as thats the way it is I felt like I ought to give a send off to my general personal feel of 2006.
2006 was the year that friendships got very complex.
Now from the outside this would seem inevitable due to marriages, a few babies and a general increased divide in the couples vs. singles battle but in spite of all of that some new crazy shit has cropped up in the friendship division. Maybe it's due to hitting my fouth year in vancouver or maybe it's my more frequent back and forth travels to Edmonton but friends , and how I have to relate to them have changed.
You see I have two types of friends: The Arcane Knights of Friendship and The Millionaire Playboys of Friendship.
The first group sees friendship as a sacred holy bond constantly teetering on the edge of desturction if one doesnt follow the strict codes and practices of friendship (all of which of course are never disclosed). With them friendship is very much an exchange of friendship as a service or sometimes I suppose as a ... goods. If you've done something good for your friend they can always be counted on to do something good for you , no matter how big or small or annoying or stupid. They do it because you are FRIENDS DAMMIT! In theory these people will take a bullet for you as long as they are assured you will take one for them.
Interestingly though considering it operates on an "I owed you now you owe me" basis the BEST kind of friendship that can be exhibited is taking one for the team. A "you don't owe me" if you will. Thats great and fine and I totally agree that altruism is a fantastic basis for friendship. But there's always a douchebag who's team you realize you've been taking one for for about three months with no love in return. And god help you if you stop being a bad friend. Friendship IS A BOND MAN...A BOND.
Then there's the other group. These people aren't about an exchange of anything. These people are about being awesome. Specifically you and them being awesome and you somehow adding a level of awesomeness to their pre-existing awesome never previously reachable sans you. So long as you both are vibrating and maximum awesome your awe can spin around and rub off on eachother and make both of your lives radical. What, you thought i'd say awesome?
Of course these friends require you be wicked and cool and original 24/7 though which is, of course, quite impossible and doubly so if you are an awkward fellow taken to 4 nights in a week such as myself. While you are awesome these people have your back and will be there for you and defend you arguably better than the previous group especially if it's for no reason at all but man...if you are not awesome for a second expect to need to produce some serious evidence of regained awesomeness to get back on their friendship radar at all.
But the problem isn't these two groups. The problem is how quick people switch from one to the other or have a little bit of each or schizophrenically change their mind as to how they feel on the matter. One day you have to be awesome and then next day you are in shit because you were being awesome and not committing the holy act of altruistic friendship.
I read somewhere stupid recently written by an older person (so they know life...like everyone's life) that living in your twenties was like constantly wrestling a squid. I don't think you actually can wrestle a squid but I will say that friendship complexity, while amusing, is more of a hands on pain in the ass than it used to be.
Though wrestling a squid could get you lots of awesome points.
Cam
posted by Cam at 10:32 PM
1 Comments:
i guess i'm the douchebag friend who calls you at 3 in the morning. yeah. that's me.
jen and aleks put me up to it though.
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